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Aug 2024
58m 23s

Overthinking About Crushes

Amanda Montell & Studio71
About this episode
Before the internet, getting lost in a spiral of romantic, obsessive feelings for someone was already an all-consuming experience… but now? With algorithmic dating apps and the ability to overanalyze everyone watching your Instagram Stories, crushes in the digital age are ripe for delulu. In some cases, they might even pose a threat to IRL human connection. ... Show More
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