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Aug 2024
46m 16s

When Anxious People Try to Perfectly Fix...

Josh Fletcher and Drew Linsalata
About this episode

Humans will often make the mistake of trying to apply our analytical and problem solving skills in areas where they do not belong. Anxious people - people struggling with anxiety disorders - do this all the time.


  • Are you trying to fix how you feel?
  • Are you trying to solve your anxiety and figure it out?
  • Are you in the habit of trying to control how you feel, engineering away bad feelings and trying to manufacture only good feelings?
  • Are you always on the lookout for more tools, tips, techniques, and instructions on what's good "for anxiety?"


These are hints that you might be a fixer or a perfectionist or both, and that you might be trying to fix or solve your anxiety .... perfectly. If this is you, tune in to this episode of Disordered for more on the fixing trap and how what seems like a good idea can often backfire and make things worse.


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