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Aug 2024
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How To Deal With Childhood Trauma, Toxic...

Raj Shamani
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(00:00) - Introduction (01:30) - Ways families influence children to choose bad partner (04:53) - Children can develop trauma from ages 0 to 3 (11:16) - How everyone interprets events differently (16:49) - How emotional neglect & abuse shape our brain (19:14) - Toxic shame & healthy shame (27:04) - How people become codependent (32:25) - How people develop abandonment issues (43:23) - Harmful attention seeking behaviours (47:34) - Does having kids fix marital problems? (50:16) - How to handle your triggers (55:20) - Psychiatrist vs psychologist (1:00:36) - Techniques to heal from trauma (1:03:24) - Most astounding research yet (1:11:29) - Parental physical abuse (1:16:04) - Many men don’t seek therapy (1:19:19) - Extramarital affairs (1:22:31) - Signs of healthy relationships (1:27:24) - Importance of space (1:32:08) - Mental fitness or physical fitness (1:35:43) - Psychoneuroimmunology (1:41:07) - Concluding thoughts (1:43:36) - Thank you! In today’s episode of Figuring Out, we have Riri G Trivedi in conversation with Raj Shamani. She is a PhD scholar in childhood trauma & mental health, co-founder of Wellness Space, and an Inner child therapy trainer and parenting coach. In this episode, we talked about the psychology of people who marry at an early, three things families do wrong that make the child choose the wrong life partners, what are top contributors to suicide, and the difference between toxic and healthy shame and toxic and healthy fear. We then talked about tips for raising an independent kid and how to build emotional resilience in kids. We also talked about the causes of self-harming behavior, what is trauma and the signs and causes of it, and the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist and when to go to each of them. Towards the end, we talked about shocking facts she found out during her research, what real forgiveness is, and the side effects on kids when they are beaten up by their parents. We then talked about why some men tolerate domestic violence by their wives, what are the few common qualities in functional, healthy couples, and tips on healthy parenting. To watch such insightful podcasts, subscribe to our channel right now! Follow Riri G Trivedi Here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ririitrivedi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@riritrivedi Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/riri.trivedi LinkedIn: https://in.linkedin.com/in/ririi-g-trivedi-6729068

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