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Jul 2024
24m 36s

Ep #525: Say vs. Hear

Brooke Castillo
About this episode

How do you talk to yourself when you’ve done something wrong?

 

Maybe you miss a putt in golf or you mess up at work.

 

In these moments, it is so common to beat ourselves up. To get angry and berate ourselves as if that will ensure we don’t mess up again.

 

However, most of the time, what we say to ourselves is not actually what we need to hear.

 

In this episode, learn how to interpret what you really need to hear in tough moments in order to keep moving forward. You’ll hear how to be the best coach you can be to yourself, and how to provide the level of support you need to show up the way you want to.

 

What You Will Discover:

 

  • Why it’s so common to beat ourselves up when we make a mistake.
  • What we think talking negatively to ourselves accomplishes.
  • One of the secrets to living a conscious life.
  • How to show up as the best coach for you.
  • An exercise to practice speaking to yourself the way you need.

 

 

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