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Jul 2024
1h 4m

Transform Your Situationship Into a Rela...

Violet Benson
About this episode

You don't get brownie points for going the extra mile for a man you met two weeks ago. You don't get brownie points for putting up with his disrespect or cooking for him a five course meal on the second date, because you want to show him that you are wifey material, even though he has never once reciprocated your energy.


So if you want someone to chase you, you have to treat them like a drug dealer treats their clients. You get them hooked and then you threaten to take it away -- Not with your words, but with your actions. Follow my 5 step guide, and they won't be able to get enough off you. 


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TIMESTAMPS:


SEGMENT 1 - Let’s catch up! - 0:00 - 19:41

Catch up with me over my breakdown, guess the surprise guest for next week, hear what I’m doing this weekend, and my plans for next month, and why podcasting isn’t for everyone. 


SEGMENT 2 - 5 step guide to a relationship - 19:42 - 50:07

How to go from a situationship to a guaranteed relationship in 5 simple steps.


SEGMENT 3 - Benson knows best - 50:22 - 1:04:347

In today's segment we cover your questions - 

  • Is everyone in NY in an open marriage?
  • Why a situationship breakup can hurt more than a 5 year relationship breakup
  • Guys who barely text you during the week before your date 
  • The correct timeline it should take you to move on from a heartbreak 
  • Why you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people
  • Natural Birth control and more!


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