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Jul 2024
36m 15s

Lifting The Lid - Episode 122 - Unsolici...

Clare Norman & Steve Ridgley
About this episode
When the personal intrudes on the professional, we might consider bringing that to supervision.  Sometimes that personal stuff may seem really trivial, but if it’s getting in the way of us being the best coach for the people with whom we work, then we have a duty of care to clear the air for ourselves.

In this episode, Clare and Steve talk about our reaction to unsolicited email and LinkedIn junk mail as one such example of where emotions (in both our cases, annoyance and frustration) can get in our way.  It’s a distraction from what matters most, interference in our daily choices and the “recovery time” to get our heads back in gear can be considerable.  Our beliefs and values about politeness are tested.  Thinking about how to respond, indeed whether to respond are all part of the disruption.

This might feel like something inconsequential when it comes to our coaching, but anything that takes us away from full presence is worth time in supervision.  This is just one example of many seemingly trivial and yet sometimes stressing considerations for supervision.
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