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May 2021
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What Do You Say When: A Client Says, “I ...

ELENA AGUILAR
About this episode
This is a “What Do You Say When…” episode, the first of its kind designed to explore some of the most commonly asked questions we receive from coaches and managers looking to support others in those moments when they feel stuck. On today’s episode, Elena pulls back the curtain on how she thinks about and responds to the common refrain of, “I don’t know how…” ... Show More
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