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May 2024
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Self Abandonment of Complex Post Traumat...

Jennifer Wallace & Elisabeth Kristof
About this episode

The essence of who we are radiates when we live in our purpose. When we can connect with our true self and share it with others. There are many blockers stopping us from being able to express our feelings, or even know what we’re experiencing, and one of them is self abandonment.

 

Don’t let the “self” fool you — sometimes, we unintentionally abandon ourselves because of the survival responses born as a result of trauma. Until healing begins, we can get stuck living through learned patterns of ignoring our own needs in favor of others around us, suppressing feelings to protect ourselves from the neglect of others, and rejecting our intuition.

 

Trauma Rewired host, Jennifer, and Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness are finishing the CPTSD series by discussing this final component of CPTSD: self abandonment. They talk about the ways we abandon ourselves through the lens of their own experiences, and how it manifests in a cycle of self-abuse and shame.

 

If you find yourself disregarding your own health and happiness, tune in to understand this component of CPTSD and how healing is possible!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

  • Jennifer shares a recent story of self abandonment

  • Elisabeth defints self abandonment

  • Dissociation as a survival response

  • The effects of parentification

  • Healing self abandonment

  • How all the components of CPTSD work together

  • Becoming an expert of your nervous system

  • Toxic stress and disease

  • Learning to say “no” and self-regulate

  • The power of self-expression

  • Join the live-recording Q&A episode AND the new Facebook group!

 

 

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