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Jul 2024
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How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyo...

Gillian Berner
About this episode

Comparison is the thief of joy, but we’ve never lived in a time of greater social comparison. We compare ourselves on every metric: our jobs, our relationships, our homes, our bodies, our social following, our vacations, our money. 

Summertime especially can bring up a lot of comparison. It seems like everyone on social media is having the most fun on a beautiful trip with an epic group of friends and impossibly fit bikini bodies.  

It’s easy to forget that we’re looking at a highlight reel of everybody else’s lives, comparing their best curated moments to our worst. Here’s the thing… most of the time when we feel like we aren’t enough, or don’t have enough, the people we’re comparing ourselves to don’t even have a life we’d actually want. 

The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. 

Join me for some vulnerable real-talk on: 

  • The fake side of what we see on social media 
  • Comparing our family life, relationship status and friend groups
  • Why you don’t need to stop following everyone you compare yourself to 
  • Using envy as your compass and inspiration for what you really want 
  • Overcoming the capitalist idea of competition
  • How comparison leads to scarcity and lack mentality 
  • How to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves 
  • Recognizing what you ACTUALLY want VS what comparison tricks you into wanting
  • Carving out your own unique path of success

Our show is produced by:

  • Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
  • Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
  • Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
  • Sara Valentine, Content Producer

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