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Jun 2024
25m 55s

S08|23 - Growth Mindset, Fixed Mindset, ...

Crystal the Parenting Coach
About this episode

Sometimes the best prize of all isn’t a trophy. In a culture where outcome production and tangible results are celebrated, how do we teach our kids to accept all parts of themselves- mistakes, bumps in the road, big emotions, and all? Join this conversation with Chasta Hamilton and me, as we discuss this topic and her new children’s book “The Trophy Trap”. 

Orphaned as a child, Chasta found comfort in the creativity, play, and catharsis of the performing arts. This led to a life as an arts entrepreneur, where she believes that everyone has the power to reach their fullest potential and disrupt the status quo in an empowering and inspiring way. She’s a founder and CEO as well as a bestselling author (Trash the Trophies and Handle the Horrible) and speaker (TEDx: “You Weren’t Built to Break”). 

Today you’ll hear: 

  • How we often teach growth mindset (and other socioemotional skills) in performative and ineffective ways, and how we can change things.
  • Less talk about the “outcome” and more about the process (ie. Allowing failure and discussing it, without the shame). 
  • How to create a culture of leaders and changemakers through allowing more vulnerability, authenticity, and celebrating of our children’s inner voice. 
  • Growing self-awareness in our kids (and letting the next generation of youth change the world for the better). 

Connect with Chasta:
Website: https://www.chastahamilton.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/chastahamilton
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chastahamilton/

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Join the re-parenting movement, at my next retreat, The Inward Journey: www.coachcrystal.ca/the-retreat

Parent School: Discover your own unique path, with confidence… raising emotionally intelligent children that leave your home knowing that you truly, deeply care for them… that you aways have, and you always will. Isn’t that we all want deep down? That is my goal for me, and for you… and for the future generation for children we are raising. To be seen. To be heard. To be valued. To feel loved. To feel supported. To feel known. To welcome them to be themselves- fully and completely. That is The Work. I am here for it. Welcome. 

Join me for the LAST LIVE round of Parent School:

  • shame resiliency: how to feel shame and move through it, what triggers us and why, and how to move through heaviness and use it for growth. 
  • emotional regulation: what co-regulation is and how to support our children from our energy- not our words (not scripts and mantras, this work is much deeper than that), how to support ourselves and our kids through big emotions.
  • the power of our thoughts and beliefs: how to separate who we are from what we think, how to create the exact relationship we want through the power of our mind 
  • connection-based parenting: why it’s the way of the future, how to parent in a relationship-first manner, developing deep and lasting connections that last a lifetime.

Find all the information HERE.
Contact me via email: crystal@coachcrystal.ca
Audio/text message me on Voxer HERE.

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