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Jun 2024
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2204: Self-Interest is Not Selfish in Re...

Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino
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Episode 2204:

Embracing your own needs isn't selfish; it can actually strengthen your relationship. Alli Hoff Kosik emphasizes the importance of open-ended questions and empathy to encourage genuine communication. Learn how to strike a balance between selflessness and authenticity to foster a deeper connection with your partner.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/self-interest-not-selfish-relationships/

Quotes to ponder:

"These selfless acts may feel good in the moment, but over time, they’ll limit your ability to authentically connect in your relationship."

"If your partner is only taking baby steps away from constant selflessness, take baby steps with them."

"Show your partner that what they’re saying makes sense to you."

Episode references:

The Relationship Cure: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

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