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Jun 2024
33m 13s

#405 - Taking Your Power Back After a Br...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

One of the most difficult things about a breakup is the way it can leave you feeling disempowered. Getting your heart smashed by the one you love most sends you on a journey you never wanted to go on... but taking charge of your life in the aftermath of a breakup helps you emerge from the experience better than ever. 

Today, we're talking about how you can take your power back after a breakup, rebuild your self-esteem, and use your heartbreak to fuel powerful personal growth.

As a couples counselor who has seen my fair share of breakups and divorces, I know that heartbreak is brutal. But I also know it can be the doorway to a better life. There are things you only learn about yourself when it feels like your life is falling apart. And there are opportunities to discover strengths inside of you that you never knew were there. 

Tune in to learn: 

  • 04:23 Why We Feel Disempowered After a Breakup
  • 06:18 Reconnecting with Your Sense of Agency
  • 10:37 How to Focus on What You Can Control
  • 15:48 Practicing Self-Love and Kindness
  • 20:31 Taking Charge of Your Narrative
  • 23:56 Embracing Growth in Heartbreak
  • 28:25 How to Create a Positive Vision for Your Future
And much more! I hope you'll join me. 
 
xoxo, 
 
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
 
P.S. — If you are going through this right now, you should take my free breakup quiz. It will tell you where you are in your healing process and what you need to do to begin moving forward. 
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