Oct 27

#287: 5 Hard Truths for Avoidant Attachers

Preorder my book, The Secure Self If you have avoidant attachment patterns (or are partnered with someone who does), today's episode offers five truths about your patterns, blind spots, and protective mechanisms that, while perhaps hard to hear, are essential learning if you ulti ... Show More

18m 28s

Oct 21

#286: How to Deal With Lingering Thoughts About an Ex (Ask Steph)

Preorder my book, The Secure SelfHow do you stop your mind from thinking of your ex, even when the relationship is long over? In today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who is struggling with ongoing thoughts of their ex, a year on from the break-up. We'll talk about why ... Show More

12m 4s

Oct 15

#285: How to Respond to Inconsistency and Mixed Messages

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ... Show More

23m 43s

Mar 2022

#105 How to Change Who You Attract in Relationships

On today's episode we talk about how to change who you are attracting in your relationships. There are big differences between dating mistakes most of us make, and PATTERNS that are likely linked to beliefs we have about ourselves. In this episode we dive into how to following a ... Show More

23m 51s

Apr 2023

60: "I am so controlling of my partner but I don't know how to stop. Help!"

If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You're not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I ... Show More

1 h

May 2021

287 - "I can change him"

In this episode, I talk about the idea of changing someone to make a relationship work. Is is worth your energy? Should someone need to change to make a relationship work? I give my mindset on this in a simple way. Get "The New Mindset Journal", "Single is your Superpo ... Show More

16m 49s

Apr 2023

How to Find Peace Amidst Emotional Storms with Maggie Smith

In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why it's important to keep asking questions, even when the answers may keep changing The challenge of going through a big life change and not expecting clear answers How looking back through your past can bring clarity to where you are and who y ... Show More

58m 40s

Mar 2024

Do You Just Want Them to Disprove the Negative Beliefs You Have About Yourself?

In this episode, I talk about how sometimes it might not be that we actually want that person for who they are, but for how we hope they can change the way we think about ourselves.If you like ... Show More

11m 33s

Aug 2024

634 Unhappy in Your Relationship? How to Know Whether to Stay or Go

Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are? Do you feel like you've grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates? Or do you wish you had black-and-white ... Show More

22m 38s

Feb 2024

#60 - Taking Ownership for Relationship Anxiety w/ my client

A lot of times in our relationships, it’s easy to look at our partner and notice all the things they could be doing better. “It’s you, not me.” What’s not-so-easy is taking the time to understand how ... Show More

1h 5m

Jan 2024

Episode 259: How To Change Your Relationship

A lot of people want to bring change into their love life, but they feel stuck. They’re ready and eager for change, but they don’t know how to do it or how to get their partner on board. In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss practical tips for chan ... Show More

29m 47s

#141: "Is it wrong to hope my partner wi...