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May 2024
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#141: "Is it wrong to hope my partner wi...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the listener question of "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" Wanting to change a partner is something most of us will relate to in one form or another, but it's essential that we understand where this urge is coming from and what it's trying to tell us about ourselves, our partner, and the relationship. 

Some of the things we cover:

  • wanting to change little things vs big things
  • how anxious and avoidant attached people differ in wanting to change their partner
  • changes that relate to core relationship needs
  • my advice when you're hoping they'll change without any signs that they want to

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