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May 2024
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458: When Expectations Are Not Met

Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
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We all have expectations for our lives and relationships. When our expectations are not met is usually when we are most disappointed, upset, angry, insert negative emotion here. So what do we do? A good place to start is to learn what realistic expectations are for your relationship and learn how to ask for what you need. Listen to today's episode to get the ... Show More
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