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Jun 2024
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2218: When Your Expectations of Others i...

Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino
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Episode 2218:

Leo Babauta explores how our expectations of others often lead to frustration, anger, and disappointment. He explains that while we can't control others' behavior, we can manage our own expectations and cultivate self-compassion, leading to greater peace and understanding in our relationships.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenhabits.net/freedom/

Quotes to ponder:

"Our expectations of others often cause our own struggles and frustrations."

"Without expectations laid on others, we could see the good in others, instead of only how they fall short of our expectations."

"Seeing their non-ideal behavior, can you see that the other person is likely acting from a place of pain, fear, or uncertainty?"

Episode references:

The Four Agreements: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

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