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May 2024
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Episode 289: Popular Sex Questions, Answ...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Most sexual problems don’t require intensive therapy to solve because, more often than not, the root cause is a lack of sex education. Most of us never really learned what we need to know about sex or about our own bodies, which makes it all to easy for us to think that there might be something wrong with us when there really isn’t. So in today’s episode, we’re going to be answering some of the most common questions people have about sex.

My guest is Kate Moyle, a psychosexual and relationship therapist based in the United Kingdom. She runs the Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast, and is author of the new book The Science of Sex: Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered.

Some of the specific questions we dive into include:

  • What are the most common questions that come up in sex therapy?
  • How do I know if I’m having “enough” sex?
  • What’s the best time of the day to have sex?
  • Do aphrodisiacs really work?

You can learn more about Kate’s work by visiting her website here.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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