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Apr 2024
24m 6s

Losing my Teen to the Screen

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

What do you do when you give your teen a phone and everything you were worried about comes true? They stopped reading books like they used to. They never leave their room without their phone. Their grades slip. They're getting into trouble socially. Can you take the phone away? Should you? And if you do, how should you go about it? This week, Dr. Becky fields a few phone concerns and questions from her producer, Jesse Baker. 

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