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Apr 2024
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Next Level Listening (The Ask Approach) ...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we tackle the Ask Approach with Jeff Wetzler. Jeff is a world expert in learning and human potential, has more than 25 years' experience in business and education as a management consultant at the world's top organizations, and is the author of his latest book, Ask: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs In Leadership and Life


Have you ever pondered why analytical thinkers often find themselves at a crossroads in communication and networking? What if the key to unlocking exceptional leadership and life-changing relationships lies in the questions we ask? How can shifting our approach from problem-solving to curiosity-driven conversations revolutionize our connections? Dive deep with us as we explore the Ask Approach, a transformative framework designed to bridge the gap between analytical prowess and emotional intelligence.


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • Who is Jeff Wetzler, and how can his "Ask Approach" transform your leadership skills and life?
  • What holds people back from sharing vital information, and how does it affect decision-making?


  • The secret to strengthening your curiosity muscle – 10:52
  • Why is curiosity essential for building stronger personal and professional relationships?
  • How can curiosity unlock problem-solving and collaboration in the workplace?


  • Make people feel safe enough to tell you anything – 17:41
  • What can you do if you want to make people feel safe and comfortable telling you information they normally would not?


  • How to start on the right foot in a new management position – 24:29
  • What questions can you ask to make sure your team feels safe following your leadership and comfortable enough to help you understand where the weaknesses are in the organization? 


  • Is it possible to ask too many questions – 34:14
  • What types of questions foster deeper understanding?
  • How can you listen more effectively?
  • How can reflecting and reconnecting based on conversations enhance your communication skills?

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