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Mar 2024
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Emotionally abusive behavior is also phy...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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Victims of emotional abuse can experience physical pain from all the trauma, potentially leading to increased tolerance and resilience of harm. They can gradually lose their identity due to the abuser’s actions, becoming a shell of their former selves. 

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