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Mar 2024
27m 27s

Is It Really Abuse If I Can't Do What I ...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Is being overly controlling a form of abuse? In this podcast episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the subtleties of coercive control. Learn how to recognize the common control tactic of this insidious form of abuse. And this week's self-help tip is to assess how your partner's feelings and demands affect you. Are you doing less and becoming increasingly ... Show More
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