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Mar 2024
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4 Signs You Care Too Much About What Peo...

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About this episode

Do you find yourself thinking too much about other people’s opinions?

Is it starting to feel like it’s negatively affecting your life? 

Today, Jay unveils the subtle yet pervasive signs that indicate a deep-seated concern for others' opinions and the telltale signs that you may be overly influenced by external validation, from struggling to assert boundaries to outsourcing your decision-making to others.

Jay Also talks about actionable tips and strategies for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and how to draw inspiration from those who have walked a similar path before you, cultivating resilience and self-assurance in the face of external judgment. Explore the transformative power of reframing your self-perception and embracing a mindset of self-acceptance, as Jay emphasizes the importance of clarity and self-awareness in navigating life's challenges. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • How to not crave external validation
  • How to stop people-pleasing
  • How to not get swayed by other people’s opinions
  • How to stand your ground 

Gain practical tools for cultivating inner strength and confidence, from reframing negative self-talk to recognizing the inherent value of your own opinions and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:11 Stop Caring About What People Think
  • 04:10 Sign #1: You Get Easily Swayed
  • 05:36 Sign #2: You Struggle to Say NO
  • 06:18 Sign #3: We Often Want to Please Others
  • 06:40 Sign #4: You Outsource Your Choices
  • 09:22 Tip #1: Someone Has Been Through a Similar Experience Before You
  • 17:00 Tip #2: Don’t Be Someone Who Gossips About Others
  • 18:52 Tip #3: Be Clear About How You Feel About Yourself
  • 21:06 Tip #4: Opinions Don’t Become Your Reality
  • 22:19 Tip #5: Think of the Three Best Decisions You’ve Made in Your Life
  • 24:20 Tip #6: People Are Not Thinking About As Much As You Think They Are

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