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Jul 2023
33m 41s

#29 - Is it wrong to find someone else b...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

Is it wrong to find someone else besides your partner attractive? In today’s episode, I explore:

  • the impacts of religion and romanticism on the message of “only having eyes for our partner”
  • the shame and guilt that can come up from finding someone else attractive
  • my new beliefs on attraction that feel helpful, not anxiety inducing
  • an exercise you can do after the episode to help you determine if your beliefs on attraction are helpful…or not

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