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Jan 2024
40m 48s

EP 437: Get Out of Your Head with Ivy

CHRISTINE HASSLER
About this episode

This coaching call is about getting out of our heads and into our bodies. Today’s caller, Ivy, had to suppress her natural inclinations as a child and she doesn’t feel safe in her body. She asks Christine for guidance around releasing the blocks to get what she wants from life. This session is extremely helpful if you relate to being in your head, or cognitive, or thinking more than feeling your way through things.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode437].

 

As children, we internalize and amplify the voice and the messages of our parents and that is what becomes our inner voice, or inner critic. And, often, why we don’t feel safe in our bodies because we left our bodies at a very young age due to not feeling safe. We didn’t feel safe to be ourselves, and we didn’t feel safe mentally or emotionally.

 

There are so many things we do to protect ourselves. And what often happens is we hurt ourselves more. But until we realize so much of what we’re doing is protective patterning and until we find another way to “protect” ourselves, we keep doing the things that make us feel safe even if they aren’t the healthiest things for us. It is so deeply healing to get into our body and communicate with our inner child.

 

Remember, working with a coach or therapist is great, but it can be helpful if the person you are working with has struggled with similar things you are struggling with.

 

Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to jill@christinehassler.com to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have trouble getting out of your head into your body?

  • Have you been told to do somatic work or body-based practices but you just can’t seem to do it?

  • Do you have a fierce inner critic?

  • Do you carry a lot of shame?

 

Ivy’s Question:

Ivy would like guidance on how to remove the blocks that are keeping her from taking action to get where she wants to be.

 

Ivy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is in therapy.

  • She thinks she may have a block due to body shaming.

  • She is unable to identify how she feels.

  • She thinks she is emotionally unavailable.

  • She finds it difficult to express her anger.

  • She feels she is not worthy.

  • She struggles with using her internal compass.

  • She criticizes herself.

  • She has inner child wounding.

  • She would like to get out of her head.

  • She was shamed for being emotionally expressive as a child.

  • She doesn’t feel safe in her body.

  • She fears people will see her as messy and unlovable.

  • She had to suppress herself as a child.

  • She is committed to her healing.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Find her passionate parental voice.

  • Know that she is worthy.

  • Do inner child work. Possibly Journey to Joy.

  • Find things that work for her, not just what she is told to do.

  • Commit to loving herself and giving herself the childhood she didn’t have.

 

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