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Jan 2024
37m 52s

When you don't want to accept that thing...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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Why is it so hard to strike a balance between supporting someone's goals and managing our own reactions? Sometimes, we have to traverse a tightrope walk of love and support without the comfort of a safety net. When you want to love someone but they make it hard because of a habit or behavior they're doing, you might have no choice but to make a hard choice f ... Show More
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