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Jan 2024
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Ep. 191: Learning the Difference AKA Dis...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

I’m out of town for 2 weeks hosting another self-love retreat; this time in southern Portugal with 20 women coming from all over. So in attempts to preserve my energy while still keeping the pod going, I thought it’d be fun to revisit an older episode called “Learning the Difference.”

This episode is about DISCERNMENT: the ability to perceive, judge, and understand things in an empathetic, rational, conscientious way. I believe that many things in life lie on a spectrum with nothing being inherently good or inherently bad in all contexts. That’s why it’s important that we have discernment not to judge others, but rather to know the difference for OURSELVES. Discernment is the act of choosing what’s serving you and releasing what’s not, and doing so with self-compassion.

Tune in to learn how to discern!

You will learn…

  • how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life
  • an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not
  • advice to help you feel more at peace and content

Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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