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Jan 2024
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314: Behind The Sessions: It's Okay To F...

Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D., PMH-C
About this episode

If no one has told you lately, it’s okay to fall apart. If you aren’t functioning at 100% and don’t feel like you can do what you are supposed to do today, it’s okay. We are human beings, not machines, and we aren’t meant to push through every single thing in life to produce and do and be and succeed and surpass. Life is not a competition, but a lot of people act like it is. We feel the pressure to keep going and pretend like we are okay to the point of pushing past the need for rest—and our mental health is slowly wearing away. Join me in today’s Behind-the-Sessions episode!

Show Highlights:

  • Why January can have you feeling depressed, anxious, and feeling like a failure
  • Why it’s okay to stop pushing yourself to do more and be more
  • How surrendering to your strong feelings is okay—and temporary
  • How pushing ourselves ends up being counterproductive
  • How we get depleted and need to reclaim the ability to slow down
  • Why the drive to be a “self-care warrior” can deplete us
  • Why you need to consider “stepping off the hamster wheel” and taking time to rest, recuperate, and reevaluate
  • How to assess your needs and ask yourself what you need for each day

Resources:

Visit www.postpartum.net for resources and support! 

Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  

Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!

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