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Jan 2024
11m 52s

Difference Between Needs and Expectation...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
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In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-cours ... Show More
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