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Jan 2024
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925: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Fee...

How to be Awesome at Your Job
About this episode

Dr. Aziz Gazipura explains the dangers of people-pleasing tendencies and shares actionable steps for overcoming it. 


— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The massive costs of being a people-pleaser 

2) How to not feel guilty when saying no 

3) A surprising strategy to build your discomfort tolerance 


Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep925 for clickable versions of the links below. 


— ABOUT AZIZ — 

Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. 

Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence and lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.

He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim. 

• Book: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (site) 

• Book: Less Nice, More You: Stop Hiding & Become The Most Bold, Authentic Version Of You Now 

• Mini course: “5 Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence” 

• Organization: Social Confidence Center 

• Website: DrAziz.com 


— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Study: Effect of Pain Reprocessing Therapy vs Placebo and Usual Care for Patients With Chronic Back Pain - A Randomized Clinical Trial 

• Book: Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt 

• Book: The Way Out: A Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Healing Chronic Pain by Alan Gordon, Alon Ziv 

• Previous episode: 830: Lessons Learned from the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger 

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