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Dec 2023
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Ep. 462: A Surprising Way to Be More Lik...

Gretchen Rubin / The Onward Project
About this episode

We discuss surprising new research that suggests that being accommodating

doesn’t actually make us more likable. We also mention a hack that makes habit-

keeping easier, discuss whether or not we’ve kept childhood vows, and debate a

listener’s question about how to handle her unusual challenge with her in-laws.

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