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Nov 2023
44m 27s

Childhood Trauma, ADHD, and the Path to ...

WILLIAM CURB
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Hey team! This week, I’m talking with Neha (name changed for anonymity) - she is a first-generation Indian immigrant who worked in big tech based out of the Bay Area, California. She now works to create awareness about undiagnosed ADHD in South Asians, especially women, and sells ADHD and autism-friendly products on her website pawtistictravel.com.  And just as a quick note, Hacking Your ADHD listeners can get a 15% discount code with Hacking15 on all purchases.

In our conversation today Neha talks about her history of chronic domestic and emotional abuse, and how finally acknowledging and getting help with PTSD revealed her ADHD symptoms and diagnoses. We explore the lasting impacts of childhood trauma, from physical and emotional abuse to neglect, and its connections to ADHD and other mental health issues. We go into the importance of self-validation, diagnosis, and self-compassion in the healing journey. Through our discussion, we try and provide insights into living with and managing ADHD, emphasizing small ways that we can work with our brains instead of against it.

As such, this episode is a bit more intense than some other episodes so if that’s not something you are up for right now, feel free to skip this one or come back to it later. That said, I think this is an incredibly powerful episode and want to thank Neha for the vulnerability of coming on the show and sharing her story. ACE Test Resources

Support me on Patreon Feel free to ask me a question on my Contact Page Find the full show note at HackingYourADHD.com/157 This Episode's Top Tips

  1. One way to evaluate the impacts of childhood trauma is through the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test, which can help access what many of us might just think of as a normal childhood. It’s important that when we’re looking at our ADHD we also consider issues like complex trauma which can exacerbate the symptoms.
  2. Even if it feels like we don’t have big T trauma, it can still play a role in how we manage our ADHD symptoms - we also often have a tendency to try and minimize the impact that trauma can have on us. It’s important to remember that trauma isn’t a competition and everyone is going to respond differently.
  3. It’s vital for us to recognize that if we were harmed we’re not to blame and that if we’re trying to seek validation from our abusers we will often be met with gaslighting. It doesn’t matter how the abuser feels about the situation, and can instead focus our energy on treating ourselves with compassion and healing.
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