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Jan 2020
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078 You’ve Got to Have High Standards an...

Dr. Abby Medcalf
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I'm known for saying you need to keep your standards high and your expectations low. Sadly, most people have this reversed with low standards and high expectations and that's why they're feeling resentful, dissatisfed and frustrated. Today I'm going to teach you how to identify your standards so you can create healthy boundaries and a happy relationship. Next week will be all about what to do with those expectations!


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