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Mar 2023
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193. Did You "Lower" Your Standards, Or ...

Beatrice Kamau
About this episode

I don’t actually believe in the idea of “lowering” your standards.

I don’t believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts…

And if you disagree, I’m willing to bet you haven’t been setting standards. I think you’ve been setting conditions.

If your “standards” rely on outside factors and are constantly lowering and raising depending on what you’re experiencing, guess what? That’s not a standard. 

And if you want to actually attract what you SAY you truly want, we need to sit down and get solid about what your standards truly are…

 

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