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Oct 2023
40m 55s

How To Find Love Where You Least Expect ...

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Camila is torn. She wants a partner. Someone who is ambitious. Someone who is financially secure. Someone who checks in with her at the end of the day. But most of her dates have turned out to be duds and she’s starting to think she’ll never find real romance. Should she keep searching for ‘the one,’ or should she focus on being happy on her own? On this episode of How To!, new co-host Courtney Martin brings in Samhita Mukhopadhyay to guide Camila. Samhita is an author and feminist. She was the executive editor of Teen Vogue and her first book was about dating. She has a ton of smart advice for understanding the narratives we have around dating, expanding where we find love, and ultimately healing our hearts. 


If you liked this episode, check out: How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date


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