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Dec 2022
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The Secret To Attracting True Love That ...

Ali Abdaal
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Now more than ever dating apps seem to be the sole focus of people’s attention as far as finding relationships are concerned. But mostly it’s because it feels like there’s no alternative. So how do you actually break through the two dimensional world of online dating (with it’s ghosting, red flags, icks and all) and start attracting real-life long lasting relationships? In this episode I sit down for a conversation with Matthew Hussey, one of the worlds leading dating experts and New York Times Bestselling author who has helped over 10 million people get the love life of their dreams. In the episode we start by discussing how Matthew found himself in the world of dating and relationships before uncovering his formulas for getting over the fear of approaching someone in-person, understanding the components of deep and lasting attraction and attracting true love that lasts well beyond the honeymoon phase. Enjoy!

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(00:00) Intro 
(01:39) Becoming a dating coach 
(05:51) Your breakthrough at the Tony Robbins event
(13:13) Getting into public speaking 
(19:59) Stealing like an artist, fears and taking risks 
(32:31) Rewriting myths about dating & the handkerchief metaphor 
(40:49) Modern day handkerchiefs 
(44:33) Two hit theory
(53:06) Stages of deep and lasting attraction 
(01:02:55) The importance of compatibility
(01:08:21) Is there a difference between dating advice for men and women?
(01:21:55) Your advantages can become your weaknesses 
(01:34:10) How much is attraction a choice? 
(01:44:21) Long term relationships & the honeymoon phase


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