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Oct 2023
1h 54m

tapping into your unconscious repressed ...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

In this episode, we’ll delve into the intricate connections between toxic shame, family scapegoating abuse, and the enduring impact of repressed anger in adulthood. You’ll learn about the alignment between the family scapegoat and traits like intuition, empathy, and sensitivity. You’ll also witness a dynamic portrayal of rage, revenge, and anger in TV and film, and learn the catharsis that can come with tapping into these primal emotions within your own psyche. Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode. These time markers will allow you to skip to the sections that most interest you or listen to again to portions that you require additional exploration or self-inquiry.

 

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 – 12:30: An exploration of how the core wounds of toxic shame and family scapegoating abuse contribute to repressed anger in adulthood that wreaks havoc on our lives

12:30 – 25:10: The origins of the term “scapegoat” that uncover the hidden gifts and inherent strength in this dysfunctional family role

25:10 – 38:39: Why the family scapegoat is often an intuitive, empath, or HSP (highly sensitive person)

38:36 – 42:48: The importance of being able to tap into your repressed anger

42:41 – 52:52: Rage + Anger edit (examples of expressions of rage, revenge, and anger from TV and film)

52:49 – 56:34: How to use the rage + anger edit for primal scream therapy

56:29 – 01:31:40: Storytime (reading aloud my newest Substack article “revenge and repressed anger” with personal reflections)

01:31:40 – 01:37:37: Reflections + introduction of new BFTB partner PureSpectrum CBD

01:40:28 – 02:37:58: Repressed anger and the highly sensitive person – exploration of article by psychologist Imi Lo (how repressed anger can appear in various forms and how to release it in healthy ways)

 

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