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Oct 2023
52m 50s

Escaping Perfectionism

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Perfectionism is everyone’s favorite flaw. It’s easy to assume that our push to be perfect is what leads to academic, athletic, and professional success.  But psychologist Thomas Curran says perfectionism has a dark side, and that there are much healthier ways to strive for excellence. 

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