logo
episode-header-image
Sep 2023
17m 8s

109. Are You Always Worried if People ar...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

Growing up as an HSP, we would tend to notice the emotions of everyone around us and at such a young age it could be hard to discern if they were mad at us or something else. Sadly, we've internalized that as adults and can often feel guilty if people are upset.


The good news? You can free yourself from these feelings.


In this episode, you'll learn:

  • About my struggles with low self-worth
  • Why it's important to feel safe in your self
  • About the power of setting yourself free


🌸 🌸 🌸


Step in to FREE: A two-week experience for HSPs


Join me inside The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course

Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa

Learn more: sensitiveandsoulful.com


The Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Happy Pod Productions

Up next
Today
225. Life Is Your Classroom: How to Enjoy the Holidays More as an HSP
<p>In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions.</p><p>Instead of bracing yourself or ... Show More
16m 54s
Nov 18
224. What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Small (Stop Shrinking + Start Carrying Yourself With Confidence)
<p>In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you.</p><p>Through a real client exa ... Show More
21m 42s
Nov 11
223. What I've learned about people being triggered by me (& how it helped me heal my friendship abandonment wounds)
In this episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal lesson about learning to stay grounded when others are triggered by your authenticity.From feeling like an outsider as a sensitive child to navigating judgment as an adult and business owner, she opens up about how these moments ha ... Show More
20m 20s
Recommended Episodes
May 2025
262. Why Being Easygoing Doesn't Make You a Better Person
"I feel guilty after speaking up for myself." "They probably think I'm a b*tch." "I should have said that nicer." Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? The guilt you feel after stating what you want isn't random or your fault - it's systematic conditioning. In this episode, I' ... Show More
20m 36s
Aug 2024
222. Am I too sensitive?
The life of the highly sensitive person is often misunderstood. Highly sensitive aren't just people who cry too much or get overwhelmed, take things too personally: they actually take in so much of the world that it can be too much. They feel everything, from joy to sadness, so i ... Show More
46m 40s
Nov 2024
being a sensitive soul | ep.3
Being a sensitive soul in an often-insensitive world can leave you feeling like you're 'too much'. In this episode, we explore why experiencing feelings more deeply than others isn't a weakness, but a superpower. We talk all things processing big emotions and creating a safe spa ... Show More
44m 2s
Aug 15
Stop Bottling It Up: The Science-Backed Truth That Your Breakdown Is a Breakthrough | Radhi Shetty (Fan Fav)
This is a Fan Fav episode. When you are feeling overly emotional and trapped in your thoughts about stress, frustration and doubts you are having about everything happening around you, anything can set you off. Yet, so often you try to hold those emotions in, try to put on your b ... Show More
59m 34s
Oct 2023
BECOME EMOTIONALLY BULLETPROOF - how to master your emotions, rely on yourself & take control of your life with Evy Poumpouras
<p>Ep 91. This episode with Evy Poumpouras might be one of my favorite conversations of all time. Evy is a multimedia journalist who once served as an agent in the US Secret Service, protecting Presidents Barack Obama, George W. Bush, Bill Clinton, and others. She also worked cri ... Show More
1h 33m
Apr 2025
How To Let People Feel Their Feelings
The concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of allowing others to experience emotions like anger, disappointment, or frustration without trying to fix, dismiss, or control ... Show More
45m 55s
Aug 2024
#614: When People Don’t Support You or Understand You
Feeling misunderstood or not supported by those close to you can feel isolating and hurtful. It can devastate your spirit and throw you into a spiral of resignation and depression. You are not alone, and the good news is that you don't actually need the support of other people in ... Show More
33m 32s
Jul 2025
Ep 254: Being Seated in Self: Setting Boundaries Confidently
If you’re struggling with trying to keep a handle on your own beliefs in the face of a person with a strong ego, as in a romantic relationship or parental relationship where they talk you out of your feelings or tell you that you’re wrong, this is for you! A lot of people struggl ... Show More
1h 1m
Jan 2025
Rage, People Pleasing and Food
<p>If you have an eating disorder, you’re probably sensitive and hugely empathic. You’re the wonderful caretaker and often the listener in conversations. When you’re not isolating yourself, you know the minutiae of your friends’ lives and have been a sounding board for many diffi ... Show More
8m 11s
Aug 19
Understanding Healthy Aggression and How Unprocessed Anger Becomes Internalized
<p>Have you ever been told you're "too nice" or found yourself saying "I'm fine" even when you're really not? For so many of us, anger can feel scary or wrong, like something we should push down or avoid entirely. But Sarah explains that there's a difference between healthy and u ... Show More
1h 10m