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Sep 2023
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Making Friends As a Lone Wolf | Toolbox ...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover how to make friends with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. 


It is an unfortunate statistic that we lose friends as we get older, but why does that happen, what can you do to make and maintain friendships that last a lifetime, what are the 3 traits you need to be the friend everyone wants, and proven system can you implement tomorrow to attract dynamic high value people into your life? 

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • Why do you have fewer friends today than you did 10 or 20 years ago and what can you do to rebuild friendships you’ve lost?


  • Make dynamic high value friends that turbocharge your life – 10:05
  • What can you do to find and build friendships with high value people who share your values and interests?


  • 3 steps to be the rock star of your social circle – 20:38
  • What 3 traits do you need to master to be the guy (or girl) everyone wants to be around?
  • How do you pinpoint the valuable social capital you bring to friendships so you can leverage it to accelerate the building of future friendships?


  • Build rock solid friendships effectively and efficiently – 38:46
  • How many hours does it take to build friendships that last a lifetime?
  • What is the most effective AND efficient strategy to funnel the best prospects for friendship into your life so you don’t waste time getting to know people who don’t meet your standards?


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