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Sep 2023
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S4 E4 | Why Revisiting the Past Can Help...

Lysa TerKeurst
About this episode

Walk through your past; don't wallow in it. Deal with your past; don't dwell on it.

In the fourth episode of our miniseries titled "Boundaries Boot Camp," counselor Jim Cress will walk through simple steps to help you look back at your own story so you can better understand yourself and start your journey toward healing today.

Related Resources:

  • Download Lysa TerKeurst’s free resource "Is This Normal? 15 Red Flags You May Be Missing in Your Relationships." Stop tiptoeing around dysfunctions that are robbing you of inner peace, and learn the difference between a destructive pattern and a difficult season.
  • Continue your personal journey to setting better boundaries that lead to better relationships with the help of Lysa TerKeurst's book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are. Purchase your copy today!
  • Ready to take the next step in finding your own personal Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here.
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