logo
episode-header-image
Sep 2023
19m 11s

When Happiness Feels Like Self Betrayal

Teal Swan
About this episode

In this episode, Teal Swan reveals one of the most painful and insidious patterns that can lie at the root of your suffering: using suffering as a substitute boundary. She explains how this pattern originates from childhood trauma and how it affects your relationships and your life.

Up next
Oct 3
The Big Fish in a Small Pond Pattern
Staying in your comfort zone might feel safe, but it could be the "Big Fish in a Small Pond" pattern - a form of self-sabotage driven by the fear of insecurity. When we can't tolerate feeling inadequate or challenged, we limit ourselves to smaller environments where we stay at th ... Show More
11m 8s
Sep 26
Why Healing Can Make You Feel Worse, Before You Feel Better
In this video, Teal explores why real healing requires us to face suppressed pain, dismantle toxic survival mechanisms, and navigate the discomfort of deep transformation.Whether it’s an awakening nerve causing intense burning after an injury, or processing long-buried trauma tha ... Show More
10 m
Sep 19
Where Does Blame Fit in with Consciousness?
We’ve been taught that blame is toxic, but outlawing it entirely is actually a form of emotional bypassing. Real healing and relationship resolution require us to identify causation - the root cause of what went wrong - so we can build true accountability.In this video, Teal Swan ... Show More
20m 38s
Recommended Episodes
Jul 2025
Trauma Expert Reveals WHY You Keep Attracting the Same Pain (Caroline Middelsdorf)
What if your triggers weren’t the problem... but the doorway?In this episode, we unpack the layers of trauma that shape our reality: emotional wounds, parent dynamics, trust issues, physical pain, and more. Whether you think you’ve been through trauma or not, this conversation wi ... Show More
52m 46s
Dec 2017
Teal Swan - A Breakthrough Process for Healing Emotional Wounds
Internationally recognized spiritual leader Teal Swan joins Hay House CEO Reid Tracy for a fascinating conversation on healing emotional wounds and resolving trauma through a remarkable 18-step process she designed. “When I look at trauma on the planet,” Teal explains, “it is not ... Show More
32m 25s
Jan 2025
Letting Pain Teach, Not Define
Heartbreak, especially the first, can feel overwhelming and all-consuming. In this episode, Rosie revisits her own experience of young love and the lessons it taught her. She explores how emotional pain, when faced head-on, can become a powerful teacher that leads to deeper self- ... Show More
6m 10s
Jan 2025
what if the chains of your past are looser than you think? (breaking free from trauma bonding and repetition compulsion)
<p>Have you ever felt like you're stuck in a cycle, repeating the same mistakes, attracting the same toxic relationships, and feeling trapped in your own patterns? In this episode, we’re tackling a topic that affects us all, often without us even realizing it: the invisible chain ... Show More
27m 33s
Mar 2023
Episode 4: Why Trauma Bonds are Mistaken for Love
In this episode, Dr. Laura Copley outlines how trauma bonds can be both powerful and intoxicating, often being mistaken for genuine love. Tune into this episode to learn more about what is happening psychologically and physically to the human mind and body that keeps us addicted ... Show More
25m 23s
Oct 2025
Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?
Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner's jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to heal ... Show More
45m 22s
Nov 2019
31. "It's Okay Not to be Okay"- Why Healing is Similar to Grieving
In this episode we get real & raw about how learning to love yourself and healing from past emotional abuse and trauma can be filled with highs and lows, depression, anxiety, and all sorts of emotions. We talk about how healing & self-love isn't a cut and dry process that's as ea ... Show More
23m 20s
Jan 2020
Discovering the Pain
In this episode we go deeper into triggers to really understand the pain going on below the surface. If you aren't willing to deal with pain from your past then you won't experience growth.  
17m 13s
Dec 2023
How We Make Sense of Trauma
In this episode I discuss how we make sense of trauma when it is happening, and how these meanings impact us long term. I discuss what it means to reprocess trauma by focusing on meanings and learnings instead of specific incidents and autobiographical memories. o view Kinas reso ... Show More
22m 59s