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Aug 2023
21m 53s

#173: The Beauty of “Failure”

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I feel like a failure”? As a Type A, self-motivated, achievement-driven kind of person, failure is something you might feel often… even when you haven’t actually failed. The worst kind of failure is when you don’t meet your OWN expectation of success (which is more often than not) and find yourself stuck in a never-ending cycle of “feeling like a failure.”

In this episode, you will learn...

  • why feeling like a failure is a THOUGHT, not an emotion (and how to talk yourself out of that BS)
  • how to deal with common feelings of failure like when your body changes, a relationship ends, or a job opportunity doesn’t work out quite the way you expected
  • 3 mindset shifts to help you feel better about potential failures

Remember: Anything that feels like failure right now is pushing you, preparing you, and pointing you toward the path you’re actually meant to be on.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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