“Acceptance is kind of a choice. We say, I accept this. That's the way they are. Surrender feels different. It feels like, we're not just distancing ourself from something, but we're expanding around the thing that was giving us trouble. So it doesn't have such a stranglehold on us, in a way. And with acceptance, comes a gateway to something appreciably deep ... Show More
Oct 9
Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)
Longtime sex-advice columnist and author Dan Savage shares how he thinks about monogamy, marriage, infidelity, and repair. We explore how sex and relationships get conflated. We get into identities, orientations, preferences, language, and how we’re raising kids today. Also, Sava ... Show More
1h 1m
Oct 2
The Intrinsic Order that Emerges from Within Chaos (Elinor Dickson, PhD)
“We have to let go of our own patriarchy,” says Elinor Dickson. “And we’re afraid to because it represents control for us.” Dickson spent more than 35 years as a Jungian therapist, and she cowrote the seminal Dancing in the Flames with her good friend Marion Woodman. She’s one of ... Show More
52m 50s
Sep 29
Using Triangulation to Better Understand Yourself (Monthly Solo)
In this month’s solo episode, I’m exploring the parts of our culture and our collective that we can own—and impact. And I’m sharing more on the power of triangulation, and how you can use certain systems and tools to better understand yourself, your roles, and what you might be t ... Show More
44m 4s
Sep 2020
A Different Way to Live Virtuously
“Each of us, in our own infinite precious particularity, will be led to what’s to be done next in our own time and space,” says Cynthia Bourgeault. The modern-day mystic and Episcopal priest is the author of several brilliant books, including Eye of the Heart: A Spiritual Journey ... Show More
50m 46s
Jul 2023
Spiritual Minimalism, Purpose, & Living A More Fulfilling Life With Light Watkins
Light Watkins is an expert meditation and spiritual teacher who gave up all his earthly possessions five years ago (save what he could fit into a small backpack) and proceeded to travel the world giving talks on happiness, mindfulness, inspiration, and meditation. Today he shares ... Show More
2h 6m
Oct 2021
Making Peace with Yourself
“Healing is like my middle name,” says Alexandra Elle, author of After the Rain: Gentle Reminders of Healing, Courage, and Self-Care. Elle joins Erica Chidi to talk about what it means to nurture your inner child and find a way back to yourself again. They explore the trap of com ... Show More
47m 6s
Jun 2021
Realizing Our Belonging
Cohost Erica Chidi is joined by Tara Brach, a clinical psychologist, spiritual meditation teacher, and author. Brach’s new book, Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness, explores the fundamental value of connection and how to recognize the value in ourselves. Today, t ... Show More
55m 40s
Nov 2023
#104 — The Lessons of Death
Sam Harris speaks with Frank Ostaseski about death and dying—and about how the awareness of death can improve our lives in each moment. Frank Ostaseski is a Buddhist teacher, international lecturer, and a leading voice in end-of-life care. In 1987, he co-founded the Zen Hospice P ... Show More
1h 8m
Sep 2020
Proving Ourselves into Existence
“I grew up with this intense fear of failure,” says Cathy Park Hong. “And in retrospect, I can understand why my parents instilled that in me—because for them, there was no safety net.” Hong is a writer, a professor at Rutgers-Newark University, and the author of Minor Feelings: ... Show More
42m 49s
Feb 2022
Steve Hagen on What We Know But Don't Believe
Steve Hagen was ordained a Zen priest in 1979 and in 1989 he received Dharma Transmission (formal endorsement to teach) from Jikai Dainin Katagiri Roshi. He is the author of several books on Buddhism, science, and philosophy. These include Buddhism Plain and Simple, his most popu ... Show More
46m 56s