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Jul 2023
58m 12s

#172: The Missing Pieces of the Body-Ima...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Have you ever thought that you were happier when you were thinner/ prettier/ younger/ etc?

In a culture that values thinness and beauty, it’s hard not to believe that your value lies in your appearance. We buy into arbitrary beauty ideals and false promises, killing ourselves to look a certain way.

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Lindsay Kite, co-author of the book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, to talk about healing body-image struggles.

You will learn...

  • the missing piece of the puzzle when we talk about body-image
  • how the male gaze affects body-image
  • why losing weight and changing your appearance never solves the problem
  • ways to combat toxic beauty ideals and build body
    -image resilience

Remember: keeping up with beauty ideals is a losing game. Adhering to society’s definition of beauty does NOT buy love, confidence, health, or happiness. Usually, it only exacerbates body-image struggles.

Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament (2020, HarperCollins) and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. Both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their social media activism (IG @beauty_redefined), online course (morethanabody.org), and regular speaking engagements for people of all ages. Lindsay lives in New York City.

Follow Lindsay on Instagram: @beauty_redefined
Get Lindsay and Lexie Kite’s book, More Than a Body: https://www.morethanabody.org/more-than-a-body-book/

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_redefined

Mentioned In This Episode...
Lindsay’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/uDowwh0EU4w

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