logo
episode-header-image
Jul 2023
24m 11s

99. Rethinks: How to Handle Challenging ...

Matt Abrahams, Think Fast Talk Smart
About this episode

Being a better listener has a lot to do with silence, says Collins Dobbs, a lecturer in management at Stanford Graduate School of Business. “A lot of people are uncomfortable with the smallest modicum of silence, but learning often happens when we create distance for useful reflection.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Dobbs talks with host Matt Abrahams about the importance of “space, pace, and grace” when you’re receiving others’ feedback and handling the emotions that come out during tough discussions.

“There’s often a lot more focus on the skill set on delivering emotion than receiving emotion, but if the receiver of emotion can put themselves in a place of curiosity, agency, and openness … it opens up a whole new world of possibilities.”

Dobbs is an executive coach and teaches several courses, including Interpersonal Dynamics and Leadership Labs.

Connect:

Up next
Oct 7
234. Need to Know: Lead With Transparency, Character, and Silence
When it comes to leading a team, there’s no such thing as too much information.Good leadership is about good communication. And for General Stanley McChrystal, that means creating a culture of free-flowing information: “The goal is to have everyone know everything all the time,” ... Show More
25m 2s
Oct 2
233. Tech Tools: Write with Confidence and Impact
Transform how you communicate with tools that make your message stick.Clarity is the cornerstone of great communication—but turning your thoughts into words isn’t always simple. That’s why Grammarly exists: to help you express yourself with confidence and precision, no matter the ... Show More
11m 54s
Sep 29
232. Pause, Don’t Panic: Finding Calm in High-Stakes Moments
To connect with others, you have to get out of your own head.Whether presenting to millions on live television or talking to just one person, Dan Harris knows that the quality of every interaction depends on the presence you bring to it.Harris is a former national news anchor for ... Show More
26m 55s
Recommended Episodes
Mar 2024
How to Lead Great Conversations with Your Team
Some leaders spend their careers honing their relationships with employees. But Harvard Business School professor Boris Groysberg and corporate communications expert Michael Slind argue that leaders are at their best when they simply talk with their teams. In this episode, you’ll ... Show More
17m 25s
Apr 2021
#207 How to have conversations that matter
In this week’s Ask the Expert interview, Sarah talks to author, radio host and TED speaker Celeste Headlee about how to have better conversations at work. Together they discuss why most of us focus too much on what we’re going to say rather than what we can learn from conversatio ... Show More
22m 18s
Sep 2023
Improve Your Impromptu Speaking
We all know that leaders need to captivate audiences and effectively convey their ideas. But not every speaking opportunity can be prepared and practiced. That's why it's so important to learn the skill of speaking off-the-cuff, and Matt Abrahams, lecturer at the Stanford Graduat ... Show More
29m 29s
Mar 2024
How to speak more confidently and persuasively | Matt Abrahams (professor, podcast host, author, speaker)
Matt Abrahams is a renowned communication expert, with decades of teaching, coaching, and consulting experience. At Stanford University, he teaches a business school class on strategic communication. Beyond academia, he’s a sought-after keynote speaker and consultant, guiding pre ... Show More
1h 11m
Jul 2022
214: Skills for Effective Communication with Richard Newman
Both verbal and nonverbal communication are critical interpersonal skills. Listening to others, observing their reactions, speaking in a way that promotes understanding and connection, using body language—these are all essential to our leadership development. Effective leaders mu ... Show More
30m 51s
May 2024
3 Simple Tips to Talk Smarter According to a Stanford Professor
Stanford professor, author, and podcast host Matt Abrahams is back on the show to share simple tips that will help you think faster and talk smarter. You’ll learn:How to manage speaking anxiety symptomsSimple ways to structure your communication for the audienceHow to reframe the ... Show More
25m 30s
Jan 2024
Practice Your Active Listening Skills
When was the last time you practiced your active listening skills? HBR contributing editor Amy Gallo says it is a skill you need to practice. In this episode, you’ll learn how you can use listening skills to make other people feel heard and understood. Specifically, you’ll learn ... Show More
10m 13s
Sep 2023
The Secret to Giving Great Feedback
Some managers give meaningless positive feedback. Others are unreasonably critical. But Kim Scott, cofounder of the executive coaching firm Radical Candor, says good leaders can give honest feedback in the moment—as long as it’s rooted in a strong relationship. “You want to show ... Show More
27 m