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May 2023
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14: Asking for a Friend: How to Talk abo...

Anne Bland
About this episode

In this first coaching-style episode Anne Bland puts her expertise to the test and does 30 minutes of free Tantric sex and relationship coaching on one question or desire that a guest brings to her. Very bravely Elikqitie showed up with an issue that her friends as a couple are facing: how to talk about sex with an introverted partner.

Anne has seen in her coaching practice that a lack of honest and authentic communication is one of the main issues couples have when it comes to sex. It can stem from, for instance, fear of intimacy and vulnerability or not wanting to hurt the partner's feelings or ego.

Anne's Tantric Sex Tip number one is to increase the level of intimacy and heart-based connection by creating a safe space where communication can happen without judgment, criticism, or the need to spring into action and fix anything. In Tantra there are no negative and positive emotions or things, they just are. Speaking as honestly and vulnerably as possible is the second Tantric Sex Tip and listening deeply and fully is the third.

Anne also shared other Tantric Sex Tips, for instance, what is the simplest and least time-consuming way to increase intimacy, the 'Two-Minute Daily Eye Gazing', and how to spice up the usual ways of having sex by taking turns in preparing the 'Weekly Sex Date Nights.'

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If you’d like to come on the show and share your one problem, question or desire and have free coaching or information on that, please email Anne or send a private message on Instagram.

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