I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship. But that begs the question for many: how does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? In this episode, I’m going to lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either case, if you are wondering this question, it is likely there is some unconsciousness that needs addressing.
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Time Stamps:
9:30 My definition of abuse in a relationship
15:35 My definition of codependency in a relationship
18:01 Not trusting your partner to their own devices
20:32 Manipulating your partner in order to change them
27:50 Things in a relationship that are uncomfortable but not abusive
33:01 Is my partner gaslighting me?
34:35 What happens when you start to get happy in your relationship?
40:05 The power of saying more with less