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Jun 2023
45m 35s

#166: Perfectionism and Nervous System R...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

This one is for our fellow perfectionists. Those of us who were raised as girls and women, know how easy it is to fall into perfectionism, constantly equating our worth with how “perfect” we can appear to be. This is Part 2 of our conversation with Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these perfectionistic thinking and reclaim our authenticity.

You will learn...

  • what happens in the nervous system of a perfectionist
  • why women, eldest daughters especially, often exhibit signs of people-pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism and how it gets passed down through generations
  • how perfectionism might be related to IBS and other digestion issues?!?!?!?
  • tools to help you snap out of perfectionistic thinking

We hope this episode inspires you to choose PRESENCE > PERFECTION.

María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.

She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley.

Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness

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