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Jun 2023
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#81: The Gift of Anxious-Avoidant Relati...

Stephanie Rigg
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So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing.

We'll cover:

  • How different attachment styles respond to stress
  • Leading with compassion and care
  • The work that needs to be done with both attachment styles
  • Lessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationships


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