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Aug 2019
37m 26s

Ep44: Generational and Gender Communicat...

Beth Buelow
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When I tell you I’m "going to get back to you by the end of the day," what does that mean to you? And what about how you interpret “get back to you?” You might be surprised to hear that what those phrases mean to you depends on your age. And how you respond to a compliment depends on your gender, in addition to context.


Our question this episode: how can we best communicate across generational and gender differences?


This episode’s topic brings me back to a listener question from episode 6 about how to communicate with someone who is in a different generation. I’ll include a link to that on the webpage for this episode, because it’s a great companion piece for the conversation today with Lee Caraher. This topic feels personally relevant, as my husband and I are from two different generations; he’s a Boomer, and I’m a Gen Xer. We’re 10 years apart in age, and usually the difference is most apparent when it comes to cultural references, especially music. It’s made me realize how much music comes to define a generation. It’s a mood and memory catalyst, which further cements it in our psyches and almost becomes part of our identity. And this chat with Lee brought to the surface even more places where generational differences come into play, particularly as the age gap between you and another person gets wider. She offers valuable tips on how to clear up any confusion, as well as how communication has changed in the #MeToo era. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More info at howcanisaythis.com



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