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Mar 2023
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#158 If They Wanted to They Would?

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode I talk about the popular tagline you hear all over social media of "if they wanted to they would". I talk about why it's a way oversimplification and how I really don't believe it applies to breakups. I also talk about why this line of thinking can be helpful when you're newly dating someone but why it can be really harmful when we're ... Show More
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